what to do when you feel spiteful for example i have been left out of like friendship groups and i always feel really resentful and spiteful what should i do?

I hear you — feeling left out despite trying your best to be a good friend is exhausting and painful. The knowledge base offers some helpful perspectives on friendship and feeling accepted. One key idea from the context is that **"to have a friend, you have to be a friend"** [2]. This means treating others the way you want to be treated — being generous, not always insisting on your own way, and avoiding selfishness. The skit in the source shows that someone who always goes first, takes the biggest cookie, or acts like they're the smartest pushes friends away, and that kindness is what actually leads to lasting friendship [2]. Additionally, the college guide emphasizes that **your sense of self should come from within, not from others' approval** [4]. If people don't respect and like you for who you are, they may not be the right crowd for you — you deserve to feel accepted by those around you [4]. It also advises trusting people gradually, getting to know their personalities and intentions before trusting them completely, and going with your gut feeling when unsure [5]. It's also perfectly okay to embrace your introverted side and make time for yourself — you don't have to be extremely social if that's not what you need [5]. In general, feeling left out can sometimes mean the group isn't the right fit, not that you're failing as a friend. It may help to reflect on whether your efforts are being reciprocated, communicate openly with your friends about how you feel, and also invest in yourself and your own interests so your sense of worth isn't tied to any one group.

Based on the provided texts, the ideal girl to marry should possess a combination of virtuous qualities, good lineage, and auspicious physical characteristics. She should be from a different *gotra* (clan) but of the same caste, be free from disease, have excellent qualities, be long-lived, and be endowed with virtues like learning and good character [2]. She should also be beautiful, from a large family, and given by her father [1][3]. The texts also specify that one should avoid marrying a girl who is older, taller, or the daughter of one's guru, as these are considered like one's mother [1]. Additionally, a girl with inauspicious signs, such as a quarrelsome nature, is to be avoided even if she has many children [3]. The selection process involves a detailed examination of the girl's physical characteristics (samudrika shastra), including her feet, hands, nails, and other body parts, to determine if she will bring happiness and prosperity [2]. For example, a girl with soft, red feet with even toes is considered a blessing to the home [2]. The texts also mention the importance of the girl's nature, categorizing women into types like Padmini, Hastini, Chitrini, and Sankhini, to find a compatible match for a happy life [5]. Ultimately, a good girl's marriage is decided by the agreement of mind, body, and word, and she should be virtuous and loyal [4].

Based on the provided context, Devs (divine beings) do not have organs and blood in the same way humans do. The texts describe Devs as capable of "vikriya" (self-mutation), meaning they can transform their bodies at will, including creating a complete body from all parts of their body [1]. They can also perform activities like speaking, eating, and excreting in two ways—through a specific part of the body or through the whole body [1]. The context also clarifies that Devs have a "bhava sthiti" (birth or genus-specific life span) and "bhavayushya" (birth-specific life span), meaning they do not reincarnate in the same genus, unlike humans who have "kaya sthiti" and "addhvayushya" [2]. Additionally, when Devs fight wars, they transform into animals like bulls or buffalos rather than using actual animals [3]. This indicates their bodies are not fixed like human bodies with organs and blood, but are instead mutable and capable of transformation.

A man should marry a woman who is from a different gotra but of the same caste (sajati), is free from disease, possesses excellent characteristics, and is long-lived [1]. She should be rich in virtues such as education and good conduct (sheel), and be given by her father [1]. Specific desirable traits include: * **Physical Characteristics:** A woman who is beautiful, has a clean and even forehead about three fingers wide, a deep navel, and gold-colored body hair [1, 2]. Her feet should have equal toes, be soft, reddish, and smooth [1]. * **Behavioral and Social Traits:** She should be fortunate, loving to her husband, a companion in religious duties, and from a good family [1, 3]. * **Astrological Compatibility:** Her birth sign (rashi) should not be the sixth or eighth from the husband's birth sign, and her varna should not be opposite to the husband's [2]. Conversely, one should avoid women who are prone to disputes, steal from the home, are overly aggressive, or possess specific "inauspicious" physical signs, such as a black tongue or a white palate [2].

Based on the Jain scriptures in the provided context, we should not eat food that grows underground because such foods are classified as **Anantkaya** (aggregate plant life), which contains innumerable living beings (jivas) [1]. The context lists 32 such forbidden foods, including tubers (Bhumikand), carrots, garlic, ginger, turmeric, radish, yams, and sprouted pulses [1]. These are considered "one-sensed" beings with infinite lives in a single body, and consuming them destroys countless souls [1]. The scriptures state that we are not endowed with the sense of taste to kill these innumerable living beings, and doing so for taste will result in losing the organ of taste in the next birth [1]. Additionally, the Acharanga Sutra explains that food placed on earth-bodied beings (sachit earth) is considered faulty and unacceptable, as it involves harm to earth-bodied beings [2]. By abstaining from eating these underground foods, one gains the merit (punya) of saving the lives of infinite living beings [1].

This isn't covered in the knowledge base, so here's a general answer: The different "versions" of Lord Parshvanath (such as Shankheshwar, Jirawala, or Navpad) refer to specific **Tirthankar idols (Pratimas)** located at various pilgrimage sites. While they all represent the same 23rd Tirthankara, they are distinguished by: * **Location:** The idol is named after the town or temple where it is enshrined (e.g., Shankheshwar is a famous pilgrimage site in Gujarat). * **Miraculous History:** Certain idols are believed to have appeared miraculously or possess special spiritual energy, leading to the establishment of specific shrines. * **Iconography:** While the standard symbol for Parshvanath is the snake hood, different idols may have variations in the number of hoods or the specific artistic style of the era in which they were carved.